It’s Hump Day! Yes, I am excited! We have family coming for the weekend, and it’s been eight years since I’ve had the chance to visit with them face to face. I am thrilled. Honestly, the weekend couldn’t get here faster.
Today’s blog is pretty vulnerable for me, if I’m being honest. It’s a topic of which I am no where near an expert on, and I almost don’t know what to say. But it’s a topic that’s been coming up often for me personally, and so I thought I’d take a few moments and share. Maybe this is something for you too.
Friendship. The beautiful, time consuming, blessing that is friendship. I don’t have a ton of really close friends. Growing up I had what felt like a million. I loved making friends. I wanted all the friends I could have. I was seriously, a major extrovert, and now... ehhh not so much. I went to college for two years with 50+ classmates, and I hardly keep up with any of them outside of social media. And these are the same people I shared my life with for those two precious years. My girlfriends from high school? We were practically inseparable, and now, y’all we hardly talk.
Why do I share this? First to admit to you that I’m not the best at keeping up with people, but also to remind you to savor those friendships that God places in your life. There are those that may be, just for a moment, a friend to you, even if it’s just for the whole of one conversation. I’ve learned over the years to value the special people God puts in my life. I may not always succeed as I wish I could, but this is a learning process for me. Personally, I have those very few friends who I’ve been friends who I’ve kept up with and felt like God supernatural kept me in their lives, this includes my hubby and mom (we’re super close.) And that’s about it. And if those few were the only friends I had for the rest of my life, I’d be okay with that. Nevertheless, I’m a very social person, so I need interaction. But moving around as often as we do with our full time RV life can be difficult. Even maintaining those few choice relationships can be trying, but God has met that need of friendship/social interaction in the most beautiful way, which is the true topic of today’s post. Those friendships that last but a moment, as I would lovingly nickname, “the quick encounter.”
Before Hirving was born, Sami and I would often take walks around whatever RV resort/Park we were living in at the time, and God would often place an individual or family in my path with whom I would talk to and end up forming a sweet, yet temporary friendship with. Living on the road you live a life so different than a significant amount of other Americans. Meeting individuals who live that life, full time or part time, creates a beautiful bond.
Another way God would meet that need is if the family or individual had a dog. Sami is instantly drawn to dogs, so we often have to go over and pet the pup. It’s there that we get a chance to talk to the dog parents and that begins another chance at a quick friendship. I have always walked away from those conversations quite refreshed and exhilarated, excited to have shared that sweet subliminal bond that comes from a similar lifestyle . I may never see that person again, but that quick relationship was a blessing. Even if they didn’t pour into my life, God often opens the door for me to pour into theirs, even if it’s just to speak generally of God’s abundant goodness.
God puts little friendships in your path at the grocery story, at work, at the gas station, and even at church on Sunday when you introduce yourself to the new couple on the back row. God often allows those quick interactions to boost our mood, build us up, and encourage us. Or He’ll use us to pray with someone, be a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen, or a voice of hope to the hopeless. Either way, we can walk away motivated, refreshed, and reminded that God has a plan for each one of us here, wherever He puts us.
Don’t neglect those quick interactions because I have found every one to be something divine that God has established. I don’t often communicate with those people I meet wherever we live once they move or we do. I admitted earlier that I struggle when it comes to maintaining deep friendships. But i pray often for those I’ve met, even if I only met them once. There are those select few friendships that comes with great ease, that I do tend to maintain. Overall, maintaining friendships isn’t very simple or easy for me. It’s become even more difficult since getting married and having my babies. But God blesses my life consistently with some of the most unique and memorable encounters that stay with me long after the person or persons have gone. He knows my personality and He knows my struggles. He may be at work, fixing my inability. But even if He decides to keep this weakness in me, He uses those quick encounters as an opportunity to bless others, and to bless me.
I shared that picture of Sami and the ducks above, to illustrate what we should do in every quick encounter with others. During our time in Amador County (where we were living just a few weeks ago) where this picture was taken, we only saw that particular white duck a few times. But this specific duck knew Sami and I had something to offer. We brought him what he wanted most, food. And that’s often what we do when we have these moments with individuals. We bring Jesus to them, which is what all the world needs most, more than anything else. We meet a need when we encourage others, we meet a need when we build others up and bring hope as Christ would. We are daily given the opportunity to invest and love on other people, and as believers we should be excited to “feed” them, just like Sami was excited to feed this very persistent duck. Sometimes it will be us, as the recipient of the “food”, but no matter what, someone should always walk away fed.
And on the the receiving end, Sami was incredibly blessed to have been able to feed the ducks. He loved the interaction. He loved the crowds and their enthusiasm. He wanted to feed the ducks every time we walked out of the house from this point on.
Let me leave you with this, for the rest of this week, invest in those quick encounters. Don’t let time or lack there-of leave you dry in the friendly encounters category. Even if God doesn’t use them to encourage you, be sure to leave those you come in contact with, encouraged. Don’t be afraid to pray with people, don’t be afraid to compliment that lady in front of you, don’t be afraid to build each other up. You are someone else’s special encounter, let them encounter the God that dwells inside you.
God bless you! I can’t wait to share a great fall outfit with you Friday!
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