"...And God saw all He made, and it was very good." Gen 1:31
Morning y'all! When you think cellulite or stretch marks, am I the only on who's brain goes straight to her legs? Today, I am writing you from a very personal place. It may not necessarily be a struggle for all women, but it happens to be something I hear other ladies, besides myself, talk about quite often. If I sat down and really thought about it, there is plenty about my bod I could complain about. Not because it is "bad" or "wrong" but because it isn't as good as someone else's. Although I could probably talk about many more things I don't like about myself, I thought I would share my heart regarding my legs. Whether your legs are too big, or too skinny, or covered in varicose veins, or wrinkly, or covered in sun spots, or pasty white, or maybe your totally comfortable with them, I wrote this for us, and I hope your blessed by it.
I haven't had long thin legs since I was probably 10 years old. As a little girl I was very petite and long. Puberty changed all of that. Even when I was 97 lbs while exclusively nursing my Sami, my legs have never been "small." Naturally I have a smaller figure, but my legs are usually larger than ladies whose figures are often a bit larger than mine.
I spend quite a bit of my day on Instagram following other fashion bloggers. Through all my examination, many women I follow have legs much leaner and lovelier than mine, and that often makes me feel extremely insecure about my own figure. I know we aren't supposed to compare ourselves, but I don't always know how to avoid that. It's HARD! I'm not alone on this, right? I can't even tell you how many times I look at my hubby each week and ask him if it looks like my legs are getting bigger! He always laughs at me and tells me no (I don't even know if he really looks at my legs.) But over the past few days my mindset has been shifting. Since I knew this probably wasn't a feeling exclusive too myself, I thought it would be good to share in the mind changes and maybe it would be an encouragement to one of you. ::insert winking emoji::
Her body isn't your body. I think we all know that, but it's hard to actually take that to heart. Scientifically, genetics do play a part in the shape of our legs. My mom and dad are both nice and lean, but my mom claims she has what she has affectionately named, "trunk legs." Her legs always look lovely, but genetically, neither of us have especially long, lean legs. We have larger calves, and thicker thighs. Even if we were always working out we would still have larger gams and that's just it.
I've had to come to terms with this fact, as much as I don't want to. And maybe that's all it will take for you. Maybe it's simply becoming accepting of the physical traits you were given! Of course, if you have health issues due to genetics you definitely should take care of them the best that you can. But, if you are struggling simply because you don't like something, I'm coming to find, it just doesn't matter. In the grand scheme of eternity, our physical dislikes are just not that big of a deal. I'm learning every day to embrace the genes, and quite desiring to change the things that can't be changed.
This one was a big one for me; don't beat yourself up if you can't make it to the gym. Goodness knows I wish I had more time to work out and whip my legs into dreamy shape, but as a stay at home mom, my life consists of four basic things: blogging, cooking, cleaning and crawling around with my almost-one year old (knee bruises, anyone?) And not necessarily in that order. The most I usually can spare is a few lunges, squats, and neighborhood walks. In my case, a little is better than nothing! Some moms find the time to do make it to gym often, but for my life personally, I have different priorities. So is it worth having less lovely legs to spend more time with my little buddy and my wonderful husband? Yes, absolutely. My son couldn't care less about what my legs look like, and my husband is incredibly attracted to me because I'm his wife (that's so crazy, right?) He embraces every curve, cellulite dimple, and stretch mark, and I believe that's the way it should be.
Now, I am by no means advocating not working out or not maintaining a healthy lifestyle; those things are important for mental health and longevity. Nevertheless, if you are beating yourself up for not being able to hit the gym like some other ladies, stop! Working out is personal! You should make your decision based on your own desire to get those legs in shape, not because someone else's look better than yours. You will never be them, and they'll never be you. No matter how hard you try!
Dress to impress! Finding clothes to flatter your legs may be ALL you need to become comfortable with them. Some of the best advice I've ever heard came from a dear family member. She had expressed that she was the largest she has been in a long time, but due to her current transitional lifestyle (her and her husband just moved) she can't do a whole lot about it. So, she has just begun to embrace her bod in every way. She buys clothes to flatter her figure, and flaunts what she's got. Confidence does a lot when it comes to feeling comfortable with your body, your legs in particular.
With that said, if you aren't comfortable with your legs, try on different hem lines for dresses, skirts, and shorts! Experiment! You may be surprised at what length looks best. I have found that right above the knee and knee length hems seem to flatter my legs best. I tend to go shorter with my shorts, but nothing too short. I also like them to fit comfortably, but I hate when they are too tight. It just extenuates the fact my legs are big.
Jean styles also make a major difference. Skinny jeans aren't always the most flattering because they really reveal the shape of your legs. If you aren't comfortable with them due to the size of your limbs, skinny jeans may not be for you. Straight-leg jeans are a great alternative since they give you the same long silhouette without being as tight or cutting in at the ankles. I love boot cut jeans because they make my legs look so much longer when paired with heels as they have a great chic look. High waisted pants are my absolute favorite, though. The illusion of having longer legs, due to the higher waist is my favorite part. And I love wearing my shirts tucked in, so added bonus! Don't be afraid to buck the trend a little bit to find a pair of pants/shorts, skirts or dresses that make your legs look the best. And don't forget some sunless tanning lotion. Legs almost always look better tan. I'm sure you can tell... I haven't used any this summer! Haha!
So, in the words of VeggieTales (remember I have an almost-toddler) "God made you special and He loves you very much." Your legs are not what really matters. He made your body perfectly, whether it fits your definition of perfect or not. Your heart is what people will remember, not if you had cellulite. And if others are so caught up in the condition of your legs, than they need to find another hobby! I am daily learning that if the physical is your top priority, you are investing in something that will not stay lovely forever, no matter how hard you try. Your soul is the thing that will really count when you are extra old and extra wrinkly (and maybe even extra vain(y).) Ultimately, keep your priorities straight, and don't compare yourself. You are you, and your only option is to be the best YOU you possibly can be. Embrace those extra long legs, ladies! And embrace those curvy legs, too! It's totally okay if there are some extra veins showing! Have a wonderful Tuesday!
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