Hola, world! It’s Monday, yes, buttttt today is a good day for a good day. I am honestly so excited for today! Why? Because I get to have my Birth Team Meeting today! Yeah! I didn’t share a post Friday, but I thought I’d do a quick pregnancy update in honor of Mother’s Day.
A lot lot of people may not be aware that Omar and I have chosen a very different route of prenatal care and delivery this pregnancy than we did with Sam Bam. And before I continue, let me say that I had amazing prenatal care as well as a wonderful labor and delivery experience when Samuel was born. But when we moved to California, and life was so incredibly different from life in Bama, I wanted to be open to possibly doing this differently when we got pregnant again. So, when we found out we were expecting again, Omar and I began discussing our options. And after prayer and discussion we settled on what we felt the most peace about; home birth.
I have several friends who have chosen the homebirth option and not one of them has regretted it. Although still not totally accepted in the mainstream community, birthing at home is becoming more and more popular and for good reason. Home birthing and it’s lack of “unnecessary” intervention is proving to be highly successful in producing happy moms and healthy babies.
I had a very typical hospital birth with Sami, including Pitocin, epidural, and a very painful episiotomy. Not. Fun. At. All. But I had a healthy baby and fabulous lactation nurses! My doctor was fantastic and the nursing staff was out of this world. I felt so cared for. They were amazing. Nevertheless, when I became pregnant this time, I wanted to do things differently.
So I have listed the four biggest reasons for pursuing a home birth in hopes that if you are considering doing this a bit differently (e.g., a birthing center, a home birth, or even just a natural, non-medicated birth) you may be encouraged or discouraged from continuing your pursuit.
No. 1: The Extremely Personal Care
My first pregnancy was extremely difficult. I don’t mean physically, I mean mentally. Y’all, it was so bad, Omar was really scared about us getting pregnant again. He didn’t know if I was emotionally stable enough to do it again, and I’m pretty emotionally stable. He didn’t know if HE was stable enough. Ha!
I had so many questions, so many concerns (thankfully none of my concerns were anything to truly be concerned about!) and I had them often. But with only one appointment every three to four weeks with my doctor, I felt extremely foolish to call the Nurse’s Line for every little inquiry. And Google is hardly the smart way to go when you have a question about something so sensitive and unique person to person. So when choosing between traditional medicine and a home birth, I wanted to know I would be getting a much more personal approach to my pregnancy experience. It was very appealing to me to know if I was dealing with a midwife, I would be able to contact her directly and due to her lower amount of patients as opposed to an Ob-GYN, she would be much more familiar with my specific pregnancy and any oddities that may exist. I even had the convenience of texting her the simplest of questions like, “Is organic apple cider vinegar safe during pregnancy?”
Disclaimer: If I hadn’t had such an easy and healthy pregnancy with Samuel I wouldn’t have persued the home birth option. But being young and healthy and having no major health issues it seemed very safe.
No. 2: The Natural Approach
So let me start by saying, epidurals are amazing! Yes indeed! I loved that I had full, fun conversations with my L&D nurses in between contractions because I wasn’t in pain. It made for amazing memories and funny stories.
But my priorities have shifted a bit this pregnancy. As I’ve grown as a woman I’ve become so much more curious about the functions of a woman’s body and its capabilities. I’ve heard incredible stories of the beauties of natural birth but I didn’t want to experience these things confined to a hospital bed. I wanted the freedom to move around, I didn’t want to be hooked up to monitors constantly while in deep discomfort, and I wanted to eat and drink if I wanted to. I didn’t want to be “highly encouraged” into any type of medical intervention if it wasn’t 100% necessary.
When it came to prenatal care, I wanted to be able to chose to experience as much freedom as I could. I wanted limited intervention. For example, I thought I had a bladder infection during my first trimester, and instead of just getting a prescription for some antibiotics, my Midwife gave me a homeopathic regimen to try to treat it naturally and within a day I was recovered, (if I hadn’t recovered so quickly she would have sent me to an Urgent Care Center, but she was comfortable trying the natural path first.) I still had the proper blood tests and normal care like taking my BP and listening for the baby. I even had the 20 week anatomy scan at an independent sonogram place. It was not payed for by my insurance, but it was a great experience, and I had all the information I needed for myself and my Midwife. So, although a very natural route, I was not lacking in good care and precautions.
No. 3: The Flexibility
When we found out we were expecting we already knew we would be living full time in a travel trailer, but we had not yet gotten the Airstream. We didn’t know where we would be living a majority of our time during my pregnancy but my Midwife was willing to work with our crazy schedules and living situations. Since I’ve had an uneventful pregnancy she was willing to be even more flexible with our appointments.
She also comes to my location as opposed to me going to an office, a huge selling point, by the way. So when we didn’t even have a permanent place to stay in the Bay Area, she went wherever I needed her, within reason. It made my whole situation basically stress free. So stress free in fact, my blood pressure is always so much lower than any time I go to the hospital or doctors office. Ha!
No. 4: The Peace
I spent a lot of time praying about what way I should go, another Ob-GYN or a midwife. I have a friend who had done a homebirth six months before, and as she told stories about how the whole process worked during prenatal care, delivery, and postpartum, I became more and more convinced this is what I wanted to do. My friend’s baby had some early complications immediately after birth, and her midwife’s handling of the situation was incredible and I knew that’s what I would want. And every time I considered a home birth, my friend’s midwife was who I wanted to care for me. So yeah, I totally played copycat and now am being cared for by the same midwife. And let me tell y’all, she is fabulous. God totally worked it out, perfectly. Omar was 100% on board and loved that I would have the ability to contact my caregiver directly when necessary, knowing it would give me great peace of mind.
When I had my first appointment I made two things clear;
1: I asked her to care for me because she was the only person I felt God say,” Yes!” to. Truly, I prayed about several different options and the only one that I continued to have peace about was her.
2: I really loved my epidural and wanted to be extremely prepared for not having one this time around. Haha! She totally helped me out and gave me some great resources for preparing for a natural birth, by the way.
Ultimately, the peace I had with choosing a midwife came from the Lord. So if you are praying about what approach to take with an upcoming pregnancy, pray for God’s will and I believe He will show you exactly what He would have you do. For us, there was even a time where I thought I was going to have to switch to a doctor and even then, I had no peace and chose to wait it out. Boy, I am so glad I did.
So that’s just a little rundown of how we chose the Home Birth way, but if you have any questions or want to know more, don’t hesitate to comment below. Have a great Monday!
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