Congratulations! You made it to Friday, and you're still alive! You may be dragging but you're still alive. Praise God! Hopefully, all your Labor Day plans are coming together seamlessly! I know I could use the extra day with my family, especially with my birthday Sunday! It gives me lots of time to celebrate with my loved ones, which honestly, I cannot get enough of.
If you've been following me on Gold & Charm for any time at all, you know that I have a habit of writing some, more opinionated less mainstream, ideas. I am a nonconformist, and I have this habit, where if the trend is to go to the right, I go to the left. I don't have any problem jumping on a clothing trend if it is something I would pick anyway, even if it weren't the hottest thing out there. Yet, my thought process rarely follows the trends. Mostly because I am a Christian, and in the messy world we live in now, there is very little in the mainstream I can agree with in any way, shape, or form.
So, when I see this Women's Empowerment Movement, questions begin popping up in my head. Everyone has their own opinion on the movement, and it is a topic of great debate. But all I want to do today is to share four amazing characteristics of a truly empowered woman. These traits have inspired me to be the best woman that I can be! I'll warn you though, it has nothing to do with feminism, or the future being female. It has nothing to do with equal pay or equal rights. It has nothing to do with the sorts of jobs that I've held. It actually comes from something much deeper, much more sensitive.
Ladies and gentlemen, if you haven't figured it out yet, women are incredibly powerful creatures! We can tantalize men with our bodies, we have an uncanny ability to manipulate others into doing our bidding by doing something as simple as flirting. We have changed the course of history by simply preparing a dinner party, think Queen Esther! We are clever. We are creative. We literally have been created to carry one, or more living, growing human beings inside our bodies for nine months! And it's been our God-given leadership abilities that has helped hold the family unit together since the beginning of time. Women have been world-changers, society-shakers, and action-takers, inside and outside the home!
But behind many amazing women has been some wonderful men who have helped teach, train, mold, and shape women into being the most successful and productive women they can be. I have been extremely empowered to be the best woman I can be by my husband. He has been a driving force behind me, encouraging me not to give up in whatever task I may be trying to complete. Why does he do this? I'm sure there are many reasons, but let me tell you, this is a give and take relationship. I give him time, attention, love, my body, my encouragement, and my heart. If I didn't do those things and only took advantage of his generosity, would he be so willing to empower me? Doubtful.
Ladies, being an empowered woman does not mean that we need to take power from men! On the contrary, I believe that women who have strong men in their lives actually become stronger women, not weaker. Empowered women empower others. Empowerment is not meant to be horded, but meant to be shared. Shared with everyone that is; it is not gender specific. So instead of running men down, refusing to let a man help you out, etc. I encourage you to do the opposite. When a man holds the door for you, don't see it as him viewing you as weaker. Instead, allow him to honor you and your graceful power as a women and put you ahead of his own needs and desires! It should be an honor not a disservice. Thank them for giving of themselves for your sake. They don't have to, ya know? But yet you are something fine and special. And even something as simple as holding a door for you reveals that. Respect the men in your lives. If you treat them with dignity and respect, it is not far-fetched thinking to assume they will do the same in return. Even if you aren't married, respecting the men in your life is vitally important.
And what if they don't? What if you aren't respected for being the amazing woman that you are? It doesn't just have to mean a man is disrespecting you! A woman could just as easily do the same. I have heard the phrase many times, "They didn't respect me, so therefore they don't deserve my respect!" Let me remind you of the golden rule, "Treat others as you would want to be treated." Not "Treat others as they treat you." Honestly ladies, the pressure is all on us for this. As empowered women, we should be the first to treat people well. And if they continue to mistreat us? Well, that doesn't give us any right to mistreat them back, no matter how much we wish it did. When we are empowered it means we have the ability to treat others badly, we may even have the ability to practically destroy another person, yet our power should be controlled! A respected woman is not someone who just obliterates any and everyone who gets in her way! No, she grows in strength, grace, and dignity, and helps others achieve the same along the way!
As I touched on in No. 1, an empowered women empowers others! Words of affirmation are literally healing. I have worked with teens and I have worked with foster care kids. I have worked with young women and I've worked with old. I have seen the power of words! Words lack power when they are only sound and no action. But when action accompanies what is coming out of your lips, the world can change. Empower those around you by encouraging them to be the best they can be. Believe in them, support them. Especially important, be honest with them. Treat them with love and kindness while doing so. You have the power to leave a legacy, how will you be remembered?
As a Christian woman, I am empowered by the Holy Spirit. Scripture says that no one is good, meaning that, without Jesus I would be completely powerless and constantly stuck doing things that are evil. I wouldn't be able to love my husband or my child like I should. But Jesus came and gave His life for me, so that I might have power over sin! I can say, "no" to the bad stuff! And I can love people without selfishly expecting pay back. Jesus loved the world so much that He gave His life that we all might know what true love is! He was willing to lay down himself completely, to empower us! Through Jesus we have power over sin, power over death. That's right, death! And any women who have power over death, I would say is pretty empowered. You don't need to have the best position at your company, you don't have to have the highest education. You don't have to be the best or smartest, or most well-known, to be an empowered woman. You only need Jesus.
Before we part ways for the weekend, I want to share this lovely little bell-sleeved top that goes beautifully with these thrifted shorts. I purchased the top at Ross for less than eight bucks, and these incredible shorts were $.25 at a thrift store sale! I love finding deals like that. I am all about pulling colors out of bright patterns and creating a very eye-catching outfit.
Have a happy Labor Day! I am grateful for every single one of you who inspires me to continue blogging and sharing my heart. If you have any thoughts on women's empowerment, please share with me! I'd love to hear your heart.
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