You know, I've been in the blog world since May, and I have so enjoyed the creative outlet it has become. I have enjoyed learning even more about style, shopping for the pieces that will draw your interest, and learning even more about myself and the natural way I communicate; even where my excitement for style comes from. But I've also learned something else...I am not like the other bloggers. I cannot be on my phone often enough to take pictures 24/7 for Instagram. I cannot keep up with Facebook or Instagram live when my one year old wants to play, and I won't sacrifice my time with him for social media. I cannot get a blog post out every day if I want to spend time with my son and my husband. I cannot afford a professional photographer, although I am quite impressed with my sweet friend's willingness to help me out and their pretty fantastic skill. I cannot turn my husband into an Instagram Hubby, although he has been such a trooper. He is my hubby first and foremost and my times belongs to him before it belongs to this blog. I am a bit of a homebody, though not always by choice, and so I don't get the luxury of a million different backdrops for photographs. We are a one-income family and we don't have the money for me to shop at stores like Nordstrom, even during sale season, or for me to own Tori Burch sandals. And more than that, I PREFER thrifting over retail! Honestly, I have learned that the main-stream, blogging world is not for me. I am not a clone, and I do not want to neglect who I am for the sake of competing with the million other bloggers with a similar love for fashion and style.
Who am I then? I am an extremely privileged wife, who God has blessed with an extremely remarkable and loving husband, who sacrifices so many comforts along with his time, to provide for our family, so I didn't have to go back to work after giving birth to our son. I am a new mom, who honestly doesn't always know what to do. I don't buy all the latest kid fads, or the most organic non-toxic baby items. I am very old fashioned when it comes to parenting, and most millennial moms would not agree with my parenting techniques, yet my son is very well behaved, a great sleeper, a great eater, extremely healthy, and so much fun to be around.
I drive a very typical SUV with a giant paint chip in the front because our money is better suited in other places, rather than the hood of my car. I have gladly lived in mobile homes (while in Bama) and on a farm. I don't have the most amazing skin or hair. I can't afford fabulous facials or to get my hair highlighted every 6 weeks (thank you, subtle ombre) but my husband still thinks I'm beautiful. I am not a natural beauty and I definitely feel more comfortable with make-up on. I I don't go to stores to try on all the newest items because I've got a toddler who's a totally awesome dude, but after a few outfits he's pretty much ready to go play. I do not have a spotless house, in fact, I currently don't have a house! We have lived with friends since moving to California in March (it's an amazing story but I'll share it another time.)
I am an awesome clearance and thrift shop shopper! I can get really creative with clothes and love to style pieces that no one else would pick, in a way that everyone would like! I love to try new things and take risks with fashion. Yet, I am a classic lover! Give me the 50's ALL DAY! I have a major thing for shoes but in my life I have only paid over $30 for a pair like four times, ever! I sometimes have a hard time saying no to a good sale, even if I don't need anything else!
Finally, and most importantly, I love Jesus. I will not shy away from the fact that He is my everything. He has saved me, redeemed me, and has created me with the heart and creativity that I possess. He has given me purpose, direction, and a vision to see that the world is so much more than clothes and shoes. He has shown me the meaning of life. He has written my amazing love story, and given me a man that is beyond my dreams and the son that I prayed for (Samuel means, "Asked of God".)
That's who I am and I refuse to change or hide the reality of my life, as a blogger. Social media allows me to make my persona whoever I want you to see. But this is me, the pretty average lady who would love to encourage you through life and share my experiences with you! I would love to help you navigate a thrift store, and I would love to help you style the wardrobe you've already got sitting in your closet. I would love to laugh with you, and cry with you through the up and downs that naturally occur in all of our lives. I would love for you to be as real with me as I am being with you.
So, there's just a little glimpse into the Avila Adventure. I am truly grateful for everyone of you that reads Gold & Charm, and I hope that you enjoy reading it as much as I enjoy writing it.
Have a fantastic weekend, y'all! If you have any ideas of things you would like to see on the blog, please feel free to comment or send and email my way.
Golden State Livin'. Southern Charm. Jesus Lover. Wifey. Mommy. Style Enthusiast. Thrifter.
New York Native. Bama Life. Style/Beauty Consultant. Entrepreneur.